Losing weight is a challenge, but what makes it easier, is to create a visual of pictures that reflect all the benefits you will have when you reach your goal.
Before I knew anything about the law of attraction and vision boards, I created a future picture of myself and looked at it daily. At first, it took me a while to believe I could actually be thin and fit. But, days turned into weeks, weeks into months and I saw myself becoming the picture!
Creating a vision of my future self helped me ZAP all forms of self-sabotage, it empowered me and made losing weight easy!
I teach this in a FREE VISION BOARD CLASS FOR WEIGHT LOSS! Check it out HERE!
There are many ways to use a vision board. Creating more money, loving relationships and better health and weight loss are probably the top things that people want to attract. According to the law of attraction, what we think about and also how we vibrate (meaning the beliefs that are a part of our being) can determine your actions and what you attract. Vision boards are a great tool and here are 7 ideas how you can use a vision board.
1. Tap Into Your Adventurous Side
Many people love to travel and have dreams about visiting exotic locations. Using a vision board to attract opportunities for travel, can make this dream come true and sometimes in ways that you do not expect. You have to start by choosing the reasons why you want to travel to a country like Thailand. Then start collecting images of temples of gold, beaches that have beautiful white sand and crystal clear water. Surround this with pictures of spicy food, fresh fruits not available in your country and perhaps even different fish. Flowers of every color are in abundance in Thailand, so pictures of orchids would go well in your board. When you decide your dream place to visit, don’t be surprised if someone offers to take you or that you win a trip. Vision boards put our intention out to the universe and in kind, the universe will answer, sometimes in mysterious ways.
2. Set Financial Goals That Inspire You
Money is a big factor. We need it, we desire it and it can open all kinds of doors for us. But we need to make sure that we are asking the universe for money, with good intentions behind it. One very powerful image you can use as the center of your vision board for money, is stacks of gold coins. People are affected by the color of gold and the weight of a gold coin in their hand. Use a variety of images for visualizing money….coins, paper and gems. The colors of all these will help to stir up positive emotions and spark your imagination.
3. Create A New Self Image For Weight Loss Success
Eating disorders have a terrible impact on people. You can use a vision board to see a healthy you. Use images of people who are not extreme in anyway. If a person has an eating disorder, using a picture of a bodybuilder may impact negatively. Instead search for images of happy, healthy people doing fun activities. For text motivation, you would want to write down items like, “I feel wonderful, fully recovered. I give myself permission to eat healthy, tasty food. I no longer compare myself to others.” Full recovery is possible and using the Law of Attraction and vision boards, along with professional advice, will bring about the changes you need.
4. Design Your Dream Lover
Everyone wants a great partner. A loving relationship is so desirable. You can use a vision board to create that for yourself. Use images of people doing things that you would want to do with a partner. It could be pictures of people having a picnic by the river or in a dance class together, holding each other in a loving way. Your text should be very specific about the relationship. Phrases like, “we love and respect each other. We love to do things for each other. We always talk things out calmly and solve issues right away.” You can attract the person you desire into your life, without going on dating sites or asking friends for recommendations. In your heart, you know exactly what you want, so put it out to the universe.
5. Tired Of Your Job? Visually Plan Your Next Promotion
Everyone wants a job that makes them feel fulfilled. Plan out what you want from a job and what you will bring to the table. If you want to become a nurse but currently work in retail, then you need images of nurses going through training and providing special care to people. On your vision board, write down why you want to be a nurse. Did you have someone who was treated specially by a nurse and you felt very appreciative of what they did? Do the feelings of giving comfort to the sick, fill you with joy? Write those down and start seeing yourself going to nursing school, excelling and getting a job that brings much value to the world.
6. Dream Home
Do you love to get away from it all? Would the idea of owing a cottage by a lake with a dock fill you with joy and happiness? For many people the answer is a resounding…”absolutely.” You can attract the cottage of your dreams. Find the images you desire and then write down what the cottage brings to you. It could be the smells of the forest, the animals that you will see and the birds that will sing. Does a swim in a cool lake on a hot day, fill you with excitement? Make that part of your vision board. Be very specific about size, construction and color and you can be certain that log cottage with a purple door will be yours.
7. Realize Your Talents And Feed Them
Overall physical fitness and even winning trophies can be very rewarding. You can build a vision board around any area of physical fitness. Perhaps you want to become very fit and able to protect yourself. You can build a vision board around taekwondo. Find images of people performing taekwondo, breaking boards and winning tournament trophies. Add images of healthy food and drinks because you want to be physically fit in order to perform. Add in your text about feeling fit, powerful and fully alive. See yourself going through the belt stages and doing so well, that you earn that black belt in no time.
Creating a vision board of your goals will almost GUARANTEE success! If you don’t believe it…why not put it to the test!
Check out my FREE VISION BOARD COURSE FOR WEIGHT LOSS HERE!
I’ve been getting your newsletters and finding them very helpful and informative. I have a question. I’m eating right and working out at the gym, but I’m not losing weight! What could I be doing wrong?
I’m happy you find my newsletters helpful and thank you for emailing me with your question. When it comes to weight loss and reasons why you are not losing, the answer can be complex, but not difficult to find out. Before going to the typical possible reasons like changing your nutrition, workouts, and drinking more water, etc. its vital to start at the beginning with taking a look at your health and if you have any possible medical conditions that could be preventing you from losing weight. Here are 5 main medical conditions that can prevent people from losing weight.
The most common thyroid condition is hypothyroidism or an underachieve thyroid. Your thyroid gland plays a key role in your metabolism. A person who has an underachieve thyroid my experience fatigue, have an intolerance to cold and night sweats are the most common. Thyroid disfunction is often seen more often in women, but men can suffer from it too. Having an underachieve thyroid can make it very difficult to lose weight. Kelly Clarkson, in June of 2018 revealed on The Today Show that she discovered she had a thyroid condition and once treated, she was able to lose 37 pounds.
Insulin resistance is when the cells in your body are not responding to insulin which helps regulate blood sugar. When foods such as carbohydrates are eaten, your body needs insulin to help process the glucose carbs turn into. One of insulin’s jobs is to help push the glucose into the cells so the cells can use it for energy. The cells job is to allow the glucose in through receptors. When the receptors are not responding, high levels of sugar remain in the blood stream which makes losing weight difficult. Insulin resistance is usually a pre-curser to pre and type 2 diabetes.
Type 2 Diabetes
Pre-diabetes is a condition where blood sugar levels are high in the blood system. Usually, the culprit is due to a lack of exercise and eating foods high in refined carbohydrates and processed foods. In order to know If you are pre or have type 2 diabetes, your doctor would know based on your lab work results. Having high levels of sugar in your blood system can make it extremely difficult to lose weight.
Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, PCOS, is a hormonal imbalance dealing with fertility in women. Often this diagnosis is determined when a woman is in her late teens. It usually manifests in irregular menstrual cycles, acne, excessive hair growth due to higher testosterone levels and insulin resistance.
Testosterone decreases in men as they age. When testosterone levels decreases in the blood, estrogen level increase resulting in an accumulation of abdominal and chest fat deposits. When testosterone levels are low, the symptoms include fatigue and weight gain in addition to low libido.
When it comes to dealing with stagnate weight and if you are considering losing weight, it's best to start with a wellness exam which includes tests that will determine if you have a medical condition that could be preventing weight loss.
There are many physical conditions that can prevent or slow down weight loss which is why I came up with an online course that describes all the weight loss blocks that can be keeping you stuck. Regardless if you are losing and are successful right now, only 1% of everyone who diets will actually reach their goal and keep the weight off. Learn more here.
It took me over 2 years to lose over 100 pounds and during the journey, I had to come face to face with blocks that in the past would have caused failure. If you are serious about wanting to reach your weight loss goal for good, then make sure to do all it takes. You deserve the best body and life ever!
Medical Weight Loss, Nutrition Specialist, Author & Life Coach
Founder of How To Lose 100 Pounds Online Academy
3 Reason Why I LOVE Salads In A Jar Or Mason Jar Salads
Several years ago I lost over 100 pounds. When I first started, it wasn't easy to change my eating habits because I LOVED fast food, salty greasy foods, and bread! When I learned that I could lose faster if I ate more veggies and meals like salads, I had a lot of trouble. One reason I had a lot of trouble was because healthy salads were not salty and greasy. Second, there wasn't any bread involved.
In order to make the transition, I turned all the foods I loved like Chinese food, tacos, Italian food, etc. into a salad and added a small multigrain roll to give the bread experience without feeling like I was depriving myself while still getting in a lot of veggies.
Everyone agrees the problem with making salads every day is trying eat the tons of veggies you buy without them going to waste.
That's where Salads In a Jar or Mason Salads come into the game.
You can lose weight faster, develop a love for veggies, while making meal prep easy and fun. All of these reasons make losing weight easier so you can concentrate on other things like exercise, meditation, and creating your dream board.
Many people find out that the main reason they can't stick to their weight loss goals is the inability to meal plan. Meal planning is the key to being and staying successful.
Yeah, eating a bunch of salads everyday can get a little boring, but that's why you create healthy salad versions of your favorite foods. I mean, if you weren't eating salads, you'd be eating foods higher in starchy carbs, complaining about your belly fat and feeling miserable because you don't look and feel your best.
If you give salads a try, you'll find that they really are not boring at all, especially when all your friends say how much younger you look and you're feeling and looking really hot in your skinny jeans.
Having Trouble Sticking To Your Weight Loss Goals?
There are many reasons why people can't stick to their weight loss goals and it has nothing to do with the lack of motivation or meal planning. It has more to do with what could be BLOCKING you from losing weight in the first place.
Sometimes people have physical weight loss blocks like a health condition that prevents or makes weight loss difficult. Some have mental weight loss blocks they are unaware of and believe it or not, some have spiritual or emotional reasons why they can't lose weight and they don't have a clue they have these blocks.
How can you find out if you have a weight loss block? Click here to find out more.
3 Key Mindset Shifts You Need To Lose Weight
And Keep It Off
I'm writing today because I have a question; Is it possible that people can have blocks to losing weight? I mean, it seems every time I start a diet, I will lose a certain amount, but then something happens and I stop the diet and gain the weight back. It has happened so many times that I feel like a failure. Could it be that there is something blocking me from being successful? ~ Leila
Great question! In fact, you are not the only one who has asked me this, in fact, the first time someone asked me this questions, I was trilled. For the past 8 years of coaching people in the area of weight loss, I've seen so many things that seem to block people from success. First, if you really think about it, weight loss is hard. Well, you may be surprised to hear weight loss isn’t where people struggle the most.
People don’t really struggle to lose weight as much as they struggle to keep it off. There are all sorts of diets and challenges people use to lose weight. The problem is this rapid weight loss never lasts. Once you stop the diet or challenge, the weight comes right back. You may even end up heavier than you were before the diet! So, I’m going to share with you 3 crucial mindset shifts you need to adopt if you’re tired of gaining weight after dieting. They are the same mind shifts I had to make to lose the 100 pounds.
Making healthy eating, making new friends, and working out a lifestyle habit! Remember the last time you worked out? Didn't you feel great afterward? Keep doing it long enough and you'll LOVE it! Keep reading to find out how...
1. Think long term habits not short-term fixes
I have had many people come to me asking for weight loss coaching to help them lose weight for a special event. We would work really hard together, my client would get amazing results and go the the event looking like a star! Then, when this goal was over, guess what?
They went right back to their old behaviors. What is really important to understand is that until you realize that you must focus on long term success, and not quick fixes, will you be successful for life. It's better if you work on changing your time frame. If you look for quick fixes, you’ll only get short term results. Instead of following 'diets' that promise EXTREME fast weight loss, it's better to lose weight at a pace that inspires you but is also sustainable.
When deciding the actions, you’re going to take towards weight loss ask yourself if it’s something you could see yourself doing for 5 or 10 years. This is what I mean by changing your time frame. Your results are tied to your actions. If you can’t maintain the actions that got you weight loss, you won’t maintain your weight loss. top thinking weeks. Start thinking years.
Every time I followed the latest fad diet, I would go from FAD to Sad! Yes, left mad, sad, broke and depressed! Then I made a change! Keep reading to find out what happened...
2. Ignore shiny objects
This may be even harder than ever. Information and fads can spread so quickly with social media. There’s always some new, sexy secret that will be the answer to all your problems. But I assure you, success is about mastering the basics. Not the fancy stuff.
It’s all about practicing basic and boring habits like:
Not exactly marketable advice, but it works. Ultimately, any diet that works does so because it keeps your calories low. There’s nothing magic about it. In fact, most fads are just repackaging of old fads. Unless you become a hermit and lock yourself away in a cave, you will be tempted by whatever is in style right now, or whatever your friends and colleagues are doing. Ignore it all.
Those are all shiny objects that distract you from what you ought to be doing. Stay focused. Stick with a program or plan for at least 6 months before you even think about looking for a new one.
Your success will be someones else's motivation! It's about what you learn along the way. Your journey is like a famous action movie! You are the HERO who transforms at the end! Don't let making losing weight that big of a challenge that you miss out on your destiny!
3. Focus on the process
Weighing yourself every day is a good way to drive yourself crazy. You can do everything right and sometimes the scale will still go up! Daily weight fluctuations are unpredictable and uncontrollable because your weight at a given time is based on so much more than just how much fat or muscle you have. Besides, you can’t control how fast results happen anyway. You can only control the actions you take to get you those results. A better way to look at your journey is by developing a razor-sharp focus on the process, on what you need to be doing right now. Because actions cause results. So, it’s logical to focus on actions. Thinking about results won’t get you there, but actions will.
Celebrate all the little things you do well.
If you went to the gym, give yourself a high five. If you ate more veggies than you did last week, congratulate yourself. These are the things that matter. So long as you keep improving your actions, the results will follow. Plus, this actually gives you a more accurate idea of progress because what your weight says on a given day doesn’t necessarily reflect how close you are to long term results.
For example, you could go out drinking the night before and see the scale go down. Or you could do a hard workout and see the scale go up. Which one do you think is better for weight loss? Action is everything. Additionally, when you develop your focus, you’re less vulnerable to the distractions of shiny objects.
When you focus and celebrate your actions, those actions are more likely to become habit. And habits equal results that stick.
By the time I met my coach, I was sick and tired of starting and stopping diets. I hate to be the bearer of what seems like bad news, but there is no short cut around this. Losing weight takes you though the process of transformation and unless you are willing to transform yourself to the new person you will be, you will forever struggle.
But what's even more powerful that can hold you back are weight loss "Blocks." There are 3 types of weight loss blocks that keep people from having the body and health they dream of; physical, mental, and spiritual. That's why in 3 weeks I'm offering a course to help you Bust Through Your Blocks. It's called The "Why Can't I Lose Weight?! Block Buster System Course. You can learn more about it right here.
Until next time stay amazing and never stop until you make it!
Your inner monologue, the private conversations you have inside your head, are a powerful part of your ability to succeed in life. When the voice inside your head is a constant cheerleader and proponent for you, you feel as though you can achieve anything. But, when that inner voice is a persistent critic, always telling you that you are going to fail, then you will have a challenging time achieving your dreams.
Shutting down that inner critic, the one that is always second guessing you or reminding you of your flaws, is a dominant player in your personal fulfillment and success. And learning how to shut down that negative voice can help you gain confidence and finally achieve your goals.
How to Shut Down Your Inner Critic
1. Start by Listening to the Voice
The best way to get rid of your inner critic is to start by listening. You may not even be aware of how often your inner critic is chiming in. Pay attention to what you are thinking and saying to yourself throughout your day. Getting a handle on what your voice is saying is the first step to silencing it.
2. Talk to Yourself Like You Would a Friend.
When you hear that inner monologue start to chime in, try changing your words to those you would use with any personal friend having a problem. You wouldn’t start by telling them they are stupid or berating their efforts, would you? No! You’d be compassionate and encouraging, treating them with kindness. How about applying that same treatment to yourself? If they deserve it, why don’t you?
3. Look at the Evidence.
When you start to hear your inner critic tell you what you can’t do, ask yourself, how do you know? What evidence do you have to support that negative assessment? What evidence can you offer to refute those negative claims? Instead of exaggerating your abilities (or lack thereof) to succeed, look to all the ways you have been successful in the past to give you the confidence you need.
4. Don’t Live in the Past.
You need to let go of past mistakes. When you mess up, accept that it happened, then move on. Reminding yourself repeatedly of how and when you screwed up isn’t helping you solve the problem or make better choices moving forward. Focus on active solutions instead of wasting time with “what ifs.”
5. Consider the Worst-Case Scenario.
Your inner critic is probably really good at turning a possible negative outcome into a potential catastrophe. This causes you to feel more anxious than is necessary, leading to doubt and feelings of worthlessness.
Stop and consider, what if that worst-case scenario actually did occur? Would it really be all that bad? In most cases, not really.
And if the worst does happen, how could you prepare ahead of time to address that situation? Being prepared makes you worry less and feel more confident to handle any situation.
That inner critic can often have the loudest voice in the room, but don’t be afraid to keep pressing the mute button on him or her. It’s okay to accept that you are not perfect and still have some work to do in certain areas without thinking the absolute worst about yourself at all times.
You can be kinder and gentler to yourself while still focusing on ways to improve specific aspects of your life that don’t bring you joy. It’s not an either-or scenario. And silencing your inner critic will give you the freedom and space to explore those possibilities.
Until Next Time, keep reaching and striving for your dreams because we need what you have to share!
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We all want more money right? But did you know the amount of money you have can be linked to your level of health and fitness? You love and respect your body and would never intentionally take it for granted. But, that’s exactly what you are doing if you are putting off improving any area of your health. Whether you need to lose weight, heal a health condition, step up your fitness routine, we all can fall short in this area of our lives. But what if just one small improvement in your health can increase your wealth? For example, a study out of Duke University found that people with low credit scores were more likely to suffer cardiovascular conditions in the future.
Solomon Israel one of the leading researchers in this study says, “It is not [necessarily] lack of exercise or poor diet, per se, that is leading to poor financial choices,” Israel says. “Rather, a person who possesses the skills to better manage their health is more likely to possess the skills to better manage their finances.”
To help you improve on those skills, here are 3 NO MATTER WHAT mottos that are small but will boost the greatest rewards in your health AND your wealth!
#1 Make Vegetables Your Best Friend No Matter What! - It can be hard to resist the temptations of the burger and fry lunch type deals, but if you can include a side salad or make a fresh salad a mandatory addition to your lunch and dinner, you will see a tremendous improvement in your health. Of course you have to watch the calories of the salad dressings (which you can either make at home having little or no calories or ask for oil and vinegar type dressing which have less sugar and use it sparingly). Your body needs the antioxidants to fight colds, flus, and fatigue. The life in these foods help with mental clarity making it easier for you to think and make decisions. When you have clarity of mind, you can make better money decisions.
#2 Move Your Body Everyday No Matter What! - Whether it’s getting to the gym at 5:00 am or taking a brisk walk after dinner, movement is mandatory if you want to have more income and keep the income you have. And I’m not talking about the 10k step challenge, I’m talking busting your ass on the treadmill, or doing speed walking for 30-40 minutes, or some form of HIIT training. Why? Because working out at high intensity increases new cell formation and ignites more energy. This energy will get you feeling so amazing you can’t help but get the next best money increase deal or idea.
#3 Get Your ZZZ No Matter What! - Sleep. If you’re consistently getting just four or five hours of sleep a night, your decision-making skills may not be as sharp as they could be. And that can have implications for your money. It could be as simple as making poor decisions at work, spending too much money eating out because you’re too tired to cook (eating out is costly), buying things you really don’t need out of impulse, or making big money decisions like paying too much interest on a car.
The Big Money People Make Health Their Priority
People like Sara Blakely founder of Spanx, Gary Vee, Tony Robbins, James Altecher; they all say a daily fitness routine helped them build their money riches.
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WELCOME TO MY BLOCK BUSTERS "WHY CAN'T I LOSE WEIGHT!?" SERIES
There are 3 main BLOCKS that keep people from losing weight; Physical, Mental, and Spiritual. In my "Why Can't I Lose Weight!" I go over numerous reasons why you are not losing weight through these three categories. It doesn't matter what type of diet you follow, there are tons of other factors that can BLOCK you from losing weight and getting to your ideal body! I call them WEIGHT LOSS BLOCKS. In this article, I will go the most important block of all. Watch the video (I apologize for how long it is, that's why everything is explained below).
PHYSICAL BLOCK NO. 1 - YOU ARE ALWAYS LOSING SOMETHING: You Don’t Understand the Difference Between Fat Loss And Weight Loss AND this is not your fault!
There is a reason why the weight loss industry is a multibillion dollar industry. One reason is because diets don’t work. They are often not properly formulated, are missing important nutrients your body needs to lose weight properly in addition to creating ultimate health. A diet isn’t something you can stick with for life and that’s how you know it’s a diet.
The diet industry also doesn’t know that you can lose weight from your lean mass (this is a combination of your total fat weight and the combination of your bone, organs, and lean mass) or you can lose weight from your fat, or from both. So why is his important to know the difference? The reason is because if you lose fat only and very little muscle weight, you will look smaller faster. That's why I created a fat-burning course that helps you know how to do this called Lean Body Principles Lose Fat Weight Fast! Secrets Your Doctor Didn't Have Time To Learn Course. In this course, you will learn how to design your nutrition based on your unique body composition so you lose weight faster (lose fat faster).
The difference with this method is that the number on the scale doesn’t go down as fast, but your measurements down fast. It’s the opposite of the diet world. In the diet world, the scale go down fast. People think this is a good thing and a sign that your diet is working. You think you are accomplishing weight loss when this happens.
But if the scale is going down fast, most of the weight loss is coming from excess water weight, muscle, and perhaps a little bit of fat.
How do I know this? Because I use a form of technology that allows me to see where the weight loss is coming from. You see, the number on the scale that you see when you weight yourself is the combination of two numbers; your lean mass and your fat. These two numbers are moving all the time.
For example, if you weight 170 pounds, your body weight may be broken down like this:
170 = 103 pounds of lean mass (muscle, bone, and organs) + 67 pounds of fat.
When you follow a diet that is not customized for you, you can lose your muscle instead of losing fat. You NEVER want to lose muscle mass because muscle does several things:
1. Muscle is what drives your metabolism and helps to keep it high!
2. Muscle burns fat!
3. Muscle keeps your strong, helps to protect your bones, gives you energy and stamina, and keeps your skin from sagging as you lose the weight.
Everyone has a different amount of lean mass and body fat and your nutrition must be matched to your composition so you don't lose a lot from your muscle.
You can follow any diet that you think works best for you, as long as you now how much protein, carbohydrates and healthy fat you need. Because very view people know this information, theres a lot of time wasted on trying to figure out why you're not losing weight.
What is really happening is that you are:
It your muscle that helps you to burn fat. So, it doesn’t make sense to lose it. It’s like your money in your saving account dwindling down day by day, week by week, and pretty soon, you’re broke! Its the same way with your body.
In the picture above is an example of a young woman who gained muscle, but lost fat and at the end she is smaller in size, but larger on the scale. This is good, but most people want to see the total body weight number go down. If this is important to you which it is to most people, then you goal is to lose fat only and keep the muscle you have not gain anymore. Some people need to gain more muscle before they can even start losing weight. All of these questions can be answered when you begin to learn about the difference between fat loss and weight loss.
Ways To Find Out Your Body Composition
Body Fat Scales
One way to know if you are losing fat or muscle is to get a body composition scale. Many of these scales however, are not accurate. It’s because they are not professional quality.
The only way to truly know your fat % and lean mass is by getting a DEXA scan. A DEXA scan is a medical device that scans your body using radioactive wave energy. It uses several frequencies that give the most precise measurements of your bone density, you body fat % and muscle % and weight. You can get a DEXA scan periodically to know if you’re really losing fat. This can be kind of quite expensive, however. Or, you can work with personal trainer who has access to a professional body fat device. Some high end gyms have them. The only thing is, a lot of them don’t know how to adjust your nutrition, nor are they certified or licensed to do that. The sad thing is, most nutritionist don’t know the difference between fat loss and weight loss, so they can’t really help you unless they use professional body composition tools.
Professional BIA Device
I use a professional device in the medical practice where I work that allows me to conduct body compositions and we are able to create nutrition plans based on this information. If you want to know the name of the program, please email me through Youtube and I can give you that information.
RECAP AND ACTION STEPS
Medial Weight Loss Specialist and Life Coach
My life would be so much better if I just had more money, the perfect job, the perfect relationship.
Does this sound familiar?
Everyone has been in a situation where they have put their power and their happiness in the hands of someone else or place their control on an external situation to provide happiness. Some people chase relationship after relationship, believing that it holds the key to their life’s happiness. While others hold on to the belief that earning a certain salary will bring them joy.
These are common thoughts, but when you think like that, you’re giving your power away. You’re giving that power to an external factor, such as the thought of success, a person, or your job.
Your inner dialogue is telling your subconscious that you cannot be happy unless you satisfy certain criteria. Sadly, you’re entirely unaware that you’re doing this to yourself, so you’re oblivious to the fact that you’ve given your power away.
Don’t Label Yourself
What you need to understand is the only way to be happy is by taking back your power, and to do that you need to get to know yourself. You are responsible for your feelings, your behaviors, and your thoughts. By giving your power away to external factors, you are inviting unhappiness, frustration, and a general feeling of being trapped.
We live in a world of labels – you’re smart or you’re stupid, you’re ugly or you’re pretty, you’re successful or you’re unsuccessful. We have this pressure by society to fit into certain boxes that conform to what is considered normal and expected.
When you allow yourself to be put in these boxes, though, you’re giving your power away. Therefore, when you are faced with a decision you need to ask yourself where it’s coming from. Are you making your choice based on society or on your inner truth?
Six Steps To Take Your Power Back
Your potential is limitless, and it’s time that you understood that and took back the power necessary to achieve what you want from life. Use these six steps to free yourself and recapture your power.
1. Choose You. When faced with a choice are you making a decision that will empower you? Does your decision add value to your life and help you grow? Does it make you feel free? Does it make you feel happy? If the answer is no, then it isn’t the right decision for you, don’t be afraid to choose you. When I was having a hard time after I got laid off from what I thought was my dream job, my life coach at the time had me listen to a guy by the name of James Altucher. He is the author of Choose Yourself. He talks about how no matter what job you have, a boss will always have your fate in their hands. When you decide to choose yourself, you begin to work on how you can grow, move into working as an entrepreneur and take back your power. It's an amazing book and I highly recommend it.
2. Inner Connection. To truly know and understand what it is that you want from life, you first need to know who you are. Take time to get to really know yourself and you’ll soon see your decisions being fueled by you instead of external sources.
3. Find Fear. You can’t overcome your fears if you don’t even know what they are, can you? So, determine your fears and then leave them in your wake. You should never allow your fear to outgrow your self-belief.
4. Self-Expression. You can express your feelings without blaming other people. Allow yourself to open up and be vulnerable, be courageous by expressing your needs and your feelings. You don’t need to apologize for knowing what you want and who you are, it’s the light that will guide your path.
5. Self-Awareness. Be aware of what you’d like to change, whether it’s about yourself, your career, or life in general. You should always be aware of what your self-talk is truly saying as opposed to what your ego is telling you. Your ego is just noise, it’s your self-talk that speaks your true self.
6. Accountability. You are nothing if you cannot take responsibility for your words and deeds. Don’t deny mistakes or make excuses, learn from them and do better.
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Say, HALT! And Put Mindless Eating Under Arrest!
4 Simple Questions To Stop Over Eating So You Can Lose Weight Faster!
It’s okay to eat when you are hungry, but do you ever find yourself eating out of stress? Do you find yourself hungry a few minutes after a meal or you can’t seem to get full even after eating a large quantity of food? You may be lead to eat due to 4 things that can be expressed in an acronym called, HALT.
HALT, an acronym for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and Tired, is a popular slogan in recovery communities like Alcoholics Anonymous and Overeaters Anonymous. It’s a powerful technique that can also work to short-circuit food cravings.
The idea is that each of these four conditions, if not taken care of, can lead to binge eating or eating out of emotions vs. true hunger.
Here’s how to use HALT! Before your first BITE….
Stop yourself by saying the word, “HALT!” Then ask yourself the following questions:
1. “Am I physically hungry?” True hunger is natural. It comes on gradually, grows more intense the longer you go without food, and goes away when you eat. If you are hungry, eat a healthy snack to tide you over until your next meal. If you’re not hungry, continue with the questions - they’ll help you find a calorie-free way to meet your emotional need.
2. “Am I angry?” Eating an entire sleeve of Oreos because you’re mad at your mother, your partner, or your boss may mask your anger, but it won’t get rid of it. Besides, you know you’ll feel guilty and furious with yourself later on. Why put yourself through that? Choose a healthy way to blow off steam; take a brisk walk if possible or let it all out in your journal.
3. “Am I lonely?” No matter how delicious it is, food is no substitute for human companionship. To get the true connection you seek, call a friend or relative, or better yet, make plans to get together for a (healthy) dinner, a movie, or to simply hang out.
4. “Am I tired?” You can’t make smart choices about food if you’re nodding off. Catch a twenty-minute catnap, take a quick shower, or - if it’s nighttime - head to bed. Yes, it really is that simple. You can’t eat if you’re sleeping!
What can you do instead of chowing down?
Instead of eating out of habit, make it a NEW habit to use HALT as a way to STOP yourself from eating out of non-hunger. For more suggestions on how to break the cycle of over eating or binge eating, read my new book titled, Binge Proof Your Life, How To Stop Binge Eating Forever!
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MS., CPT., NSC.,
Life Coach and Medical Weight Loss Specialist
Help! I Can’t Lose Weight! 6 Signs You Can Have Binge Eating Disorder
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 65% of Americans are overweight and obese and the numbers climb every year. With all the diet books and programs on the market, why is this a problem? There are several reasons. As a professional MD weight loss specialist, I’ve helped many people shed excess pounds and improve their health. Yet, many have difficulty reaching their ultimate goal and one of the reasons is due to emotional and psychological issues, one being, over eating or binge eating disorder.
Overeating can be a normal tendency for many individuals, such as having an extra helping at a meal even when already full or eating beyond satiety at a special holiday meal or celebratory occasion. But, where is the line drawn between overeating and Binge Eating? It is important to make a distinction between overeating and binge eating, as Binge Eating Disorder is in fact a separate entity and diagnosable eating disorder, not just an occasional happening or symptom.
According to the American Psychiatric Association (APA), Binge Eating Disorder is defined as recurring episodes of eating significantly more food in a short period of time than most people would eat under similar circumstances, with episodes marked by feelings of lack of control. Further, men and women who struggle with binge eating typically experience feelings of disgust, guilt, or embarrassment and binge eat in isolation to conceal the behavior. While overeating may occur periodically in a person without this disorder, an individual with Binge Eating Disorder has recurrent episodes of bingeing without purging, often leading to both emotional and physical distress.
How do you know if you are a binge eater? There are 6 distinct signs:
1. Stress or Anxiety is a Major Trigger
Everyone experiences stress. However, everyone deals with stress differently. People who have a weight problem, usually uses food to deal with stressful events or situations. These circumstances will direct them to use food to deal with the uncomfortable feelings. They feel if they eat, the feelings will go away instead of dealing with them directly, they stuff the feelings down with food. For people who eat due to stress or anxiety, it may seem eating is the only way to relieve it.
2. You Eat When You Are Full
Another sign is the inability to finish or stop eating even when full to the point of being uncomfortable. A sign of both an over eater and a binge eater is eating when you are not hungry. Your stomach drives true hunger. When you are physically hungry, you will experience stomach sensations, and you may experience blood sugar drops making you feel irritable. On occasion, you may even dismiss these feelings if you are busy and can’t eat due to time restraints. But, when you eat when you are hungry, the sense of hunger comes on you quickly and when you do eat, you will find that even after you are full you still eat.
3. You Feel Like You’re Out of Control
During an overeating or binge episode, it may seem time has stopped and there is no sense of control. You may not be aware of the triggers that initiated the episode nor are you aware of what you are doing until you stop eating. Afterward you experience extreme guilt and embarrassment. You make promises to yourself that you will not do it again, but you find yourself breaking the promise every time.
4. Not Being Able to Control What to Eat and When To Eat
You may find yourself eating normally around others, but when a binge episode occurs you have no control over when it will happen or what you will eat. You eat anything that is available.
5. You Are A Food Hoarder
For the overeater or binge eater, you may find yourself hiding food from others in your household, or you stockpile food as if you are preparing for a famine. This behavior is detrimental to anyone who is trying to lose weight. You may feel safe knowing the food is handy and at your disposal.
6. When You Binge Eat You Feel No Satisfaction
One of the most discouraging things about binge eating is the feeling of dissatisfaction after a binge-eating episode. This can be discouraging since the purpose of eating is to feel relief. The most disheartening thing is that the food never makes you feel better in the long run.
Causes of Binge Eating
Generally, it takes a combination of things to develop binge eating disorder—including your genes, emotions, and experience.
Social and cultural risk factors. Social pressure to be thin can fuel your emotional eating. Some parents unwittingly set the stage for binge eating by using food to comfort, dismiss, or reward their children. Children who are exposed to frequent critical comments about their bodies and weight are also vulnerable, as are those who have been sexually abused in childhood.
Psychological risk factors. Depression and binge eating are strongly linked. Many binge eaters are either depressed or have been before; others may have trouble with impulse control and managing and expressing their feelings. Low self-esteem, loneliness, and body dissatisfaction may also contribute to binge eating.
Biological risk factors. Biological abnormalities can contribute to binge eating. For example, the hypothalamus (the part of your brain that controls appetite) may not be sending correct messages about hunger and fullness. Researchers have also found a genetic mutation that appears to cause food addiction. Finally, there is evidence that low levels of the brain chemical serotonin play a role in compulsive eating.
What Can You Do About Binge Eating?
Step 1. Be Aware – Awareness is the first step to recovery. Being aware that you have a problem with food in this way opens the door to change. When you are in denial, you are not open to improving your situation. Awareness opens your heart, mind, and emotions to realizing that you have a problem and that you are willing to take the steps necessary to get better.
Step 2. Get In Touch With Your Feelings
One of the main reasons you over eat or binge eat is because you are trying to run away from negative feelings. One way to get in touch with your feelings is to record in a journal what feelings you had prior to the overeating or binge eating episode. For example, if you were feeling nervous due to an upcoming job interview or angry at your spouse for something he or she did. Feelings are tricky and getting in touch with them and admitting that you have the negative feelings in the first place will help you see patterns if any, and can help you seek coping skills to deal with these feelings.
Step 3. Get Help
Many people shy away from getting help as if it is a weakness to do so. You may feel this way too. It is not weak to admit you need help. That’s the reason we have millions of people in the world. We are to be of help to one another. Getting help from a professional in the area of eating disorders, getting a weight loss coach, connecting with your doctor, will form a strong team who will work on your behalf.
Binge Proof Your Life
In my newest book, Binge Proof Your Life, I address many factors that can help you with binge eating and get you on the right road to recovery. As a former binge eater/overeater myself (I lost over 100 pounds!) along with having experience with working with over thousands of individuals, there is one thing I know for sure; you can’t get to your weight loss goal unless you address this area of your life. This book will explain in depth the causes of your situation and will give you practical strategies to get better so you can experience the joy of being at your ideal weight along with having amazing health too.
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Kamille Dawn Tirzah is a Medical Weight Loss Specialist, Author, Body Improvement and Life coach featured on People Magazine, Good Morning America and Entertainment Tonight. She has helped thousands of people lose weight and improve their lives in the areas of fitness, wealth, and happiness.
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